People are coming out as ‘Berrisexual’ – here’s what it means
Over the past year, we’ve explored terms like graysexual, demisexual, and even almondsexual, doing our best to keep up with the expanding vocabulary people use to describe their experiences of attraction. Whether it’s a sign of the times or simply the natural evolution of language, it feels as though new identity labels appear almost monthly.
It’s not necessarily a bad thing. There’s something reassuring about people finding words that genuinely reflect who they are. But it can also be confusing. The spectrum of identities is wide, the definitions overlap, and it’s easy to feel lost trying to understand what each one means. That’s why we try to clarify these emerging terms as they gain traction.
Recently, social media users — especially on Reddit — have been talking about a newer label: berrisexual.
According to early definitions found on Urban Dictionary, someone who identifies as berrisexual describes themselves as “attracted to women and feminine genders and androgynous genders, but also very rarely attracted to men and masculine genders.”
In more straightforward terms, berrisexual people can be attracted to individuals across all genders, but their attraction to men or masculine-aligned people tends to be less common, less intense, or secondary compared to their attraction toward women, nonbinary individuals, or androgynous-presenting people.
Though far newer than terms like bisexual or pansexual, berrisexuality has already resonated with a number of people who feel it captures their experience more accurately. Some Reddit users have expressed relief in finally finding a label that fits.
One user wrote, “Many people don’t know about berrisexual, and we need more representation!” Another added, “Now I don’t have to pick because berri fits like a glove,” referencing how they previously struggled to categorize their attraction under broader labels.
On the LGBTQIA+ Fandom site, one contributor summed it up simply by saying: “Berrisexuality is about attraction to all genders… you can always date a man.” The focus isn’t on excluding masculine identities entirely, but on acknowledging that attraction to them may be less frequent or less central.
Like many micro-labels, berrisexuality offers a more niche alternative for people who feel that broader identities — such as bi, pan, or omnisexual — don’t describe their experiences closely enough. For some, having that more tailored term can bring clarity, comfort, and a sense of belonging.
Queerdom Wiki notes that berrisexuality, sometimes known as Laurian, shares similarities with pansexuality and omnisexuality because it includes potential attraction to all genders. Its main distinction lies in the patterned imbalance of attraction, with stronger pull toward women and nonbinary or androgynous people.
As language continues to evolve, these micro-labels serve as reminders that human attraction is complex and layered. For individuals who struggle to find a word that feels “right,” even a niche term can make all the difference.
Were you familiar with the meaning of berrisexual before now? Feel free to share your thoughts.
I lied to my father and said I had failed the college entrance exam, even though my score was 98.7
“How could someone actually pretend to be me?” I whispered.
The sounds of the celebration faded into the distance.
The music, the clatter of champagne glasses, the bursts of laughter, my father’s voice carrying through the ballroom… suddenly all of it felt muffled and unreal.
“Madeline, listen to me carefully,” Dr. Robert Hayes said. “Your father slipped out through the back entrance ten minutes ago. He’s at Notary Office 21 with Vanessa and a young woman carrying identification under your name. They’re attempting to sign a power of attorney to sell the Charleston house.”
I grabbed the nearest pillar before my knees gave out.
“Who’s the girl?”
“I’m not certain yet. The notary contacted me because your mother placed a protection clause on the property records. Once you turned eighteen, any attempt to sell the house had to be reported to me immediately.”
My mother.
Even after death, she was still shielding me.
“I’m going there.”
“Do not go by yourself.”
I glanced toward the stage.
Chloe was still smiling through photographs and accepting congratulations.
Vanessa was missing.
So was my father.
None of the guests had noticed.
They kept sipping champagne and balancing tiny appetizers on polished plates as though, across the city, nobody was trying to steal the final place where I had ever truly felt safe.
Aunt Linda appeared beside me.
“What happened?”
I explained it all in a few short sentences.
She didn’t gasp.
She didn’t panic.
She simply took the envelope from my hand, tucked it inside her purse, and said quietly:
“Let’s end their performance.”
We climbed into a rideshare outside the venue.
Downtown Manhattan glimmered with that polished kind of wealth made up of luxury restaurants, tinted SUVs, and people who smiled without ever really seeing one another.
I sat in the backseat clutching my mother’s photograph against my chest, feeling like every red light was stealing another piece of my future.
The Charleston house wasn’t extravagant.
It was an aging pale-yellow home with a green iron gate and climbing roses spilling over the fence, which my mother used to trim with rusty garden shears.
It stood near cobblestone streets lined with cafés, old bookstores, and bakeries where the scent of coffee and fresh bread drifted through the air.
To my father, the house meant profit.
To me, it meant my mother humming softly while watering flowers at sunset.
We arrived at the notary office around 10:40 that night.
Dr. Hayes stood waiting outside with a black leather folder tucked under one arm.
He was thin, silver-haired, and always looked perfectly put together.
But that night, tension sharpened every line in his face.
“The notary is delaying the process,” he told us. “She requested further verification on the documents. We don’t have much time.”
“Did they sign anything?”
“Not yet. But your father’s getting aggressive.”
We headed upstairs.
Each step felt like a hammer striking against my skull.
The office had dark wood paneling, a long polished table, and the faint scent of old paper and ink.
And there sat my father.
Still dressed in his tuxedo from the party.
Tie loosened.
Face flushed with irritation.
Vanessa sat beside him.
And facing the notary was a girl close to my age with similar hair, holding a fake ID bearing my name.
It wasn’t Chloe.
It was Brittany, Vanessa’s cousin.
I recognized her instantly.
She had attended a family brunch once, and Vanessa had laughed about how Brittany was “scarily talented with paperwork.”
Scarily talented.
Talented enough to become me.
The moment I entered, my father froze.
Fake Madeline dropped the pen.
Vanessa shot to her feet.
“What are you doing here?”
I looked directly at the notary.
“My name is Madeline Carter Hayes. The real one.”
The notary, a woman with narrow glasses and a calm expression, simply closed the folder sitting in front of Brittany.
“Well,” she said evenly. “That certainly explains several inconsistencies.”
My father tried to regain control immediately.
“My daughter is unstable. She failed her college exams, ran away from home, and now she’s trying to create a scene.”
I reached into my bag and removed my ID.
Then my birth certificate.
Then the will.
Dr. Hayes placed the original legal documents on the table.
“And here are her actual exam scores,” Aunt Linda added, pulling papers from the envelope. “Ninety-eight point seven percentile.”
My father looked at me.
Not proudly.
With fury.
Because he realized I had lied first.
Not from weakness.
From calculation.
“You planned this,” he hissed.
A dry laugh escaped my throat.
“No, Dad. I only lied about failing. Everything after that was your choice.”
Vanessa slammed her palm against the table.
“That house should benefit the family!”
“It belonged to my mother.”
“Your mother was Gregory’s wife!”
“And that’s exactly why she protected it from him.”
The notary turned toward Brittany.
“Miss, I need your real identification.”
Brittany immediately burst into tears.
“Vanessa told me it was harmless… she said Madeline already agreed…”
“Shut up!” Vanessa screamed.
Too late.
Dr. Hayes calmly lifted one hand.
“Identity theft and attempted fraud inside a notary office are serious criminal offenses. Especially when inheritance fraud is involved.”
My father stepped closer to me.
“Madeline, let’s go home. We can discuss this privately.”
The word home made my stomach turn.
“What home? Yours, where you threw me out? Or mine, the one you tried to sell using a fake version of my face?”
His hand twitched upward.
But before he could move farther, Aunt Linda stepped directly between us.
“Don’t even think about it.”
The notary pressed a button on her desk phone.
“Security, please. And contact the authorities.”
That was when Vanessa started crying.
Not out of guilt.
Not out of shame.
Out of rage because she had been caught.
“This is all your mother’s fault!” she shouted. “Always acting perfect! Always leaving paperwork behind! Always making you seem special!”
I slowly pulled out the sealed letter my mother had left for this exact moment.
My hands trembled as I opened it.
I recognized her handwriting immediately.
“My Maddie,
If you are reading this, then you are eighteen… and someone has tried to make you believe you need permission to own your own future.
This house is not a prize. It is safety.
Your education is not something Gregory gave you. It belongs to you.
If he ever tells you that you are worthless, remember this: I saw your brilliance before you could even read. I saw your strength when you fell over and over learning to walk and refused to cry. I saw your kindness when you fed a stray dog your lunch and pretended you weren’t hungry yourself.
Never sign anything because you are afraid.
Never stay at a table where people treat you like a burden.
And if you ever find yourself alone, go to Linda and Dr. Hayes. They know the truth.
I am leaving this house to you because I wanted there to be at least one door in the world nobody could close in your face.
And I’m leaving you my love because love is the one thing nobody can forge.”
I couldn’t continue.
Aunt Linda finished reading for me.
When I looked up again, my father had gone pale.
“She didn’t know what she was doing,” he muttered weakly.
Then Dr. Hayes opened another file.
“Mrs. Evelyn Hayes knew exactly what she was doing,” he replied. “She also legally documented that any attempt at coercion, fraudulent sale, or identity deception should trigger an immediate report and block any action Mr. Gregory Hayes attempted involving her assets.”
Vanessa turned toward my father in panic.
“You told me there weren’t protections!”
He looked back at her with pure hatred.
And in that look, I finally understood everything.
He hadn’t thrown me out because he thought I failed.
He threw me out because he needed me desperate.
Broken.
Homeless.
Carrying a suitcase and willing to exchange my house for crumbs and fake affection.
The police arrived fifteen minutes later.
Brittany confessed immediately that Vanessa paid her and that my father supplied copies of my identification.
Vanessa claimed I was emotionally unstable.
My father insisted it was merely “a family misunderstanding.”
The notary looked at him coldly.
“Mr. Hayes, family misunderstandings are not conducted with forged documents.”
As they were escorted away for questioning, my father looked back at me.
“You’ll regret this. Nobody will ever care for you the way I did.”
For the first time in my life, those words didn’t frighten me.
“You never cared for me. You only cared about what you could take from me.”
He said nothing.
Because some truths no longer leave room for lies.
But I still wasn’t done.
We returned to the ballroom close to midnight.
The party was still going.
Quieter now.
Uneasy.
Chloe sat near the untouched cake, mascara streaked beneath her eyes, phone in her hand.
The moment she saw me, she stood up.
“What did you do? My mother texted me about the police—”
“Ask your mother what she did.”
People slowly gathered nearby.
Relatives.
My father’s business associates.
Vanessa’s friends.
All pretending concern while craving drama.
I climbed onto the same stage where my father had proudly declared Chloe the future of the family.
Then I picked up the microphone.
Aunt Linda tried stopping me with a glance alone.
She couldn’t.
“Good evening,” I said.
The music cut off instantly.
“I’m sorry for interrupting Chloe’s party. I’m not here to ruin anything. I’m here to explain why my father is missing.”
Whispers spread across the ballroom.
Chloe stood motionless.
“A week ago, Gregory Hayes threw me out after I told him I had failed my college exams. That was a lie.”
I held up the score report.
“Ninety-eight point seven percentile.”
Some guests started clapping awkwardly without understanding.
I didn’t smile.
“I lied because I overheard my father and Vanessa planning to throw me out, destroy me emotionally, and pressure me into selling the house my mother left me.”
I pulled out my phone.
Then pressed play.
Vanessa’s voice filled the ballroom:
“Madeline turned eighteen, Gregory. Now you can finally take the house her mother left her.”
Then came my father’s voice:
“When she fails, I’ll throw her out. She’ll realize she’s nothing without me. Once she’s desperate enough, she’ll sign whatever I put in front of her.”
Chloe slowly lowered herself into her chair.
As if her legs had stopped working.
The ballroom fell completely silent.
I looked around at all of them.
“Tonight they attempted to sell that house using a girl pretending to be me at a notary office. The signature never happened. The police report did.”
Nobody moved.
No laughter.
No music.
No applause.
Nothing.
I stepped down from the stage.
Chloe walked toward me.
I thought she was going to scream at me.
Instead, she asked quietly:
“My mother used my party to cover this up?”
I looked at her.
And for the first time, I saw an actual girl… not the perfect golden child my father had spent years comparing me against.
“Yes.”
Tears filled her eyes.
“I didn’t know.”
I didn’t know if I believed her.
That night, it didn’t matter.
“Then learn quickly,” I told her. “Love that’s used to humiliate someone else becomes a prison too.”
I walked out without looking back.
The next morning, Aunt Linda’s apartment smelled like coffee, buttered toast, and rain against the windows.
I woke up on the couch still holding my mother’s photo.
Dr. Hayes arrived around ten.
He brought updates.
The attempted fraudulent signing had been officially documented.
The notary agreed to testify.
Brittany was cooperating.
Vanessa and my father would face charges related to identity fraud and attempted fraud.
The process would be long.
Messy.
Full of lawyers, courtrooms, and threats.
But the house still belonged to me.
And so did my place at the university.
“Your mother also created a trust fund for your education,” Dr. Hayes said. “It’s not enormous, but it guarantees you’ll never depend on Gregory.”
I covered my mouth with both hands.
Aunt Linda started crying.
I still couldn’t.
Not yet.
Two days later, I returned to Charleston.
The key still fit the lock.
The house smelled like closed windows, old wood, and dried roses.
Dust coated the living room.
The kitchen stood empty.
In the backyard, a cracked flowerpot still leaned against the wall exactly where I remembered it.
I sat on the floor.
And finally, I cried.
Not because of my father.
Not because of Vanessa.
Not even because I was scared.
I cried because my mother had prepared for everything… and still couldn’t stay beside me.
I cried for the little girl who spent years begging for love in a house that never truly felt like home.
And I cried from relief knowing she would never have to go back there again.
A few weeks later, classes began.
I walked across campus with a new backpack, secondhand textbooks, and my mother’s folded letter tucked into my pocket.
I didn’t feel unstoppable.
I felt exhausted.
But free.
My father called countless times.
I never answered.
He sent messages.
“I’m your father.”
“Vanessa manipulated me.”
“Chloe is devastated.”
“Your mother wouldn’t have wanted this.”
That last message was the only one I answered.
“My mother built all of this.”
Then I blocked him.
Months later, Chloe wrote to me.
She didn’t apologize for everything.
She only sent one sentence:
“Don’t sign anything out of fear. I never forgot it.”
It took me a while to answer.
Finally, I wrote back:
“I hope you never do.”
Little by little, I restored the Charleston house.
Aunt Linda helped repaint the kitchen.
Dr. Hayes connected me with a property manager so I could rent one room to an out-of-state student.
I planted fresh climbing roses along the fence.
Not because I wanted to recreate the past.
But because I needed proof that something beautiful could still grow where they once tried to destroy me.
One afternoon, I found a small metal box hidden beneath a loose stone in the backyard.
Inside was one of my mother’s bracelets, childhood photographs of me, and another note.
“If you found this, it means you came home.
Don’t sell this house because you’re sad.
Don’t keep it because you feel guilty.
Make this place somewhere you can breathe.”
That’s exactly what I did.
My name is Madeline Carter Hayes.
I scored 98.7.
I lied to my father and told him I failed.
He threw me out.
I left.
But I didn’t leave shattered.
I left carrying proof.
A suitcase.
A letter.
And my mother’s name holding me upright.
My father believed a desperate daughter would sign anything.
What he failed to understand… was that my mother gave me more than a house.
She gave me a door.
And when they tried to shut it with a forged signature, I walked through it under my own name… and opened it from the other side.
